Marriage is a covenant entered by two complete persons. (Photo : Getty Images)
A recent report on Toggle said that Jolin Tsai, a Taiwanese singer and dancer who has a big role in popularizing dance music as mainstream music in Greater China, has ruled out the idea of getting married in the near future.
Despite having a long-time boyfriend in Vivian Dawson, an actor and a model, Jolin's decision not to walk down the aisle anytime soon may be rooting from her belief that marriage does not equate to happiness.
Jolin's statement has some truth in it. Entering a marriage does not mean entering a life of happiness. One must not marry with the goal to be happy. If someone has this in mind, he/she is likely to disappoint himself/herself.
Married life is a series of ups and downs. It has both joys and sorrows. And to marry a person is to promise that one will stand with him/her no matter what life brings.
It takes two complete persons to enter a marriage. A man must not find his completeness from his wife, and a woman from her husband. They are two whole persons who vow to share their completeness with each other.
Fights usually root from the other person disappointing the other person, because something that the other wants from the other is not satisfied.
But this will not be so if they are individually whole even before the marriage. Despite of a partner's failure, a person who is complete and mature will not bother to fight with his/her partner because he/she has been ready for marriage. He/she knows that marriage requires giving, and being complete in him/herself, he/she can give more than he/she asks.
Marriage is a covenant, and it requires effort. A husband and a wife may not experience happiness 24/7 because misunderstandings and petty fights are unavoidable. But as long as each one selflessly looks for the welfare of the other, they will find an unexplainable joy that surpasses any situation.
